Putting Others First Before Ourselves – Start with your little one(s)!

“Blessed birthday darling! It is still your birthday today!”

Baby E was born at 1:45 pm in Calgary, Alberta, Canada on 07 September 2013. That was 3:45 am on 08 September 2013 in Singapore. Because we are now residing in Singapore, it makes sense that today is still her birthday, since she was born in the wee morning hours on this same day just 1 year ago. From now on, we will celebrate her birthday on 2 consecutive days!

Playing alone

Early this morning, I heard lots of babyish chit-chatter echoing outside the master bedroom. Baby E tried to wake me up earlier, but I was too tired and fell back to snooze… Little did I expect to find my baby girl playing by herself in her own room, she must have given up on me and wandered out on her own!

It was sheer pleasure watching her play. She was talking to CareBear™ as she lifted up its ear just so she could have a good look at its face. Then she gave CareBear™ a huge smooch before hugging her for a long time… still cooing away… That was how much love she has for her CareBear™.

Playing with Shen's present

After her uninhibited expression of innocent affection to her beloved CareBear™, she turned around to explore other new toys… That was her first birthday gift given by her Uncle Shen before he returned to Dunedin, NZ.

I own the tent

Then she went back into her tent, took up one of the maracas and made merry by herself…

I left her playing by herself for about 20 min, as I went out to prepare our breakfast, left it to cool while I did some household chores. When I returned to her room, she was still in her tent, amused by the balloons and musical instruments she found in the tent.


When I took this picture, she didn’t even know I was there… Close friends of ours know we are never into confining babies in playpens. Now, we are even more certain and assured that a playpen is not needed. Let the baby explore freely on her own in a safe area! The following article clearly resonates our rationale on why we do not use a playpen.


It all boils down whether parents use it more for their own conveniences to satisfy what they need to do there and then, never mind that the baby’s needs (motor development, emotional, creativity, etc.) may be compromised. It can be all too easy to stretch the patience of the baby at times.

There are times when I needed to do something now and then, but was unable to because Baby E was with me, or when she needed me. I could have left her upset so that I could accomplish what I wanted to do… However, that is not in my mind, for I am reminded how my Lord Christ Jesus has set a perfect example of putting others first before ourselves.

Putting others first before ourselves is neither in our nature, nor is it a comfortable or pleasant act. Yet, as I am granted and given a new life, one based on a relationship with Jesus Christ, filled with treasure that is mine to know and experience, I have been given countless opportunities to delve into spiritual riches to learn how to experience the kind of life God has prepared for me, since the day I was born again. I am called to put others first before myself, because that is what the fruit of the Spirit is all about:

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.”

~ Galatians 5:22,23

And who better to practice “putting others first before ourselves”, than on our own family? How blessed it will be for me if I could commit to always putting J and Baby E first before my own needs. Easier said than done. But I shall labor on… because God has called me to this work – the work of a homemaker. He built this family. I find meaningful purpose in all things that I do, even in the minutest things in my daily routine. My efforts are not wasted, my labor is not in vain, not if God is in it.

“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.” (Philippians 2:3-4 KJV)

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” (Colossians 3:23-24 NIV)

May we find grace and determination to put others first before ourselves, perhaps starting with serving our family first, with love being our driving force, following the example of Christ Jesus.

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